KING/QUEEN OF SORROW

Have you ever had an experience with being completely overwhelming sad and overall just pessimistic? Maybe you have someone in your life, a friend, family member, or significant other that is always in a state of sorrow. I mean a just always down about something type of person and will even appear to look for things to be down about. The energy around you or them may have become so negative and draining that you can predict that no matter what day it is, it will be bad for you or them; maybe both. Rather it’s you or them in your life, that struggles with a bleak outlook on everything it can be exhausting for you. Suffering in silence may feel like the only option for you, but you are wrong. Often, we think of our situations as indefinite (unchanging) and it keeps us in this distressing cycle of disappointment, hopelessness, and tragic existence.

While there are certainly a number of things in life that we all have to deal with that can be discouraging, and sorrowful. However, that should not be our daily and weekly feeling. Even, if it is someone close to you and you are consistently trying to give them a better outlook or encourage them about their circumstances you will damage and drain both of you. I am a therapist, and I am trained to have boundaries and techniques to help others create change. But I do not provide treatment to family, friends, or close colleagues, aside from it being unethical it would also be damaging to even myself to try and do this for someone too close to me.

If this is, you or someone in your life it is past time for you to start making life changes. Making these changes can be scary, yes scary! If you are the King/Queen of Sorrow, or you have one in your life, recognize how often this emotion can become one of comfort as it’s what you’re used to feeling. It’s like a comfy blanket but you cannot remember what life was like without it. Yet, it has a stench, but you have become immune to the smell, and the thought of not having it makes you feel lost.

I want you to hear me clearly King/Queen, this is not what you should be feeling all the time, and there are always healthier options. I am not telling you what I think, I am telling you what I know. I am a mental health provider and an advocate as I have seen treatment change lives. Getting support is the first steps towards change. Don’t let embarrassment, shame, and guilt rob you of meeting your best self. If you were experiencing extreme heart attack symptoms, you would have no problem with a medical professional supporting you. Mental Health treatment is no different than any other medical treatment.

Check the resources tab on this website for some support options or google your own options. While I am a great therapist, I am not always the right fit for everyone, and that is fine. I am not interested in being everything for everyone, I am the best me, and I have learned to be completely happy with just that. Give someone a chance to help you become the best version of yourself.